But in this case, Apple is actually helping the cause of consumer music ownership.
If you wanted to organize your music your way, your media would have to be at a central server, which the major labels and studios would love to control rather than let you have real ownership of the files.
If you had a LAN server, you could access it via IP from anywhere and just configure the network drive as your iTunes library. Or something.
It's not Apple's job to feed you AND wipe your ass too. Use your head, whiny.