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Love and Attraction

Love Child

Love Child

One Love
Do you love with your heart or your brain?

Do you fall in love in a business like sense because it will work out financially for the both of you and there are perks on the side......

or

Do you fall in love, love with your emotions and struggle to make ends meet no matter what the cost because at least you are together
 
Thanks Gear.

I mean, I realize I didn't leave an alternate answer, such as a couple could be in love and rich, and so they are not struggling. But you know what they say (the infamous "they") the more things one has, the more headache there is. But it is all about management is it not?
 
My marriage (21 yrs) works for several reasons. Some of which I suspect I'm not privy to.

Here's a couple I am aware of -

One is both my wife and I do things the other enjoys only because the other person enjoys it. For example - There are television show I would never watch by myself. Shows I can't stand. However, because my wife enjoys herself, I enjoy the experience of sitting through the show because it makes her happy to watch. Same for her - I'm pretty sure she'd never tune into some dry-ass wwII doc on her own, but she'll happily sit and watch with me because I'm enjoying myself. You have to be able to like something you don't like through the pleasurable experience of someone else. Not pretend to or or mutter on through but actually enjoy.

Another is that neither of us wish the other would change or improve. I like her just the way she is and she seems to feel the same way about me. I'm not really sure how we ended up that way so I don't know how to go about becoming that way. By the time I realized this was a critical function of our relationship it had been going on for years. Just lucky I guess.

Also, I have a feeling she dislikes being alone/lonely as much as I do. I suspect this is something of an important balance.

Edit: Neither of us have much interest in careers or money. We've had a fair amount of money and very little over the years. Neither of us have ever cared to trade life for things .
 
That seems to be the way successful, happy relationships go. It isn't all about one or the other but about them being together and for each other.

Good post.
 
I fell in love in about 15 minutes with the woman I've spent the last 36 years with. Never got over it. It's a push pull, never even. Sometimes balanced, sometimes blissful. Sometimes stormy and "wonder what the fuck I'm doing in the middle of this", but I only have to be away from her for a few hours to realize my life is complete with her, as opposed to without her.

Never forget that hug and kiss when you're going to be away from each other, whether for an hour or a day or more. You never know when that truck is going to come along to send you to eternity school....
 
I fell in love in about 15 minutes with the woman I've spent the last 36 years with. Never got over it. It's a push pull, never even. Sometimes balanced, sometimes blissful. Sometimes stormy and "wonder what the fuck I'm doing in the middle of this", but I only have to be away from her for a few hours to realize my life is complete with her, as opposed to without her.

Never forget that hug and kiss when you're going to be away from each other, whether for an hour or a day or more. You never know when that truck is going to come along to send you to eternity school....
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imagine spending 36 years with Vap. she must be a vegatable by now
 
No. I fall with my heart. It would be otherwise fail. That would bleed my art. All beauty bleeding out until it's a dead shell. transpearent and shallow. MOstly, i dine alone. Ask me if I care I don't. i'll play with my beans under the penetrating stare thrown in my direction by a waiter slobbering after tender asparagus.
 
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