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this will be painful...

curiousa2z

curiousa2z

Be patient till the last.
I have to go to a funeral today for the 30 - year-old son of a neighbour's...he was out drinking on Friday, got a bit shit-faced - as who among us has not? - and slipped on some stairs and died! I have no idea what to say to his poor parents. Talk about not being prepared.

I'd love to be a coward and bail but my bloody cousin keeps phoning and says we have to go and support our friend (the mom). And I don't tutor til later this afternoon so I can't even pretend I have to work.
I just dont know what to say to her.
 
You don't have to say anything to the mother. Just give her a tight hug, she'll know you care, and appreciate not having to say anything.
 
I'm sorry, that is terrible. It looks like we all need a group hug around here! Like Cassie said, you don't have to say anything or you can share a story or memory about her son, if you have any.
Even admitting, "I don't know what to say" is ok too.
 
I agree with Mirah.
Most decent people respond positively when someone admits they're struggling for the right words for the situation they've found themselves in. We've all been there. No one else has the right words either.
 
curiousa2z said:
I'd love to be a coward and bail but my bloody cousin keeps phoning and says we have to go and support our friend (the mom). And I don't tutor til later this afternoon so I can't even pretend I have to work.
I just dont know what to say to her.
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You should make the decision for you, you're cousin should be respectful of your feelings about not going (if that's what you choose).
 
Sorry to hear about this -- how senseless and tragic. It's always hard to think what to say, maybe something will come to you, if not just say what they posted above, "I don't know what to say,"
 
I'm back.... glad I went. They were so grateful people cared enough to show up to support them. But I tell ya, it was brutal. As Eggs wrote, senseless and tragic.

if I never see parents at their offspring's funeral again that will be fine.

thanks for everything guys.
*group hug*
 
It really is unimaginable. It's probably impossible even for his parents to contemplate. Anyway, it's good that you were there for them. I often find at funerals that I don't expect anyone will even notice that I'm in attendance and that it won't do any good, but the family always turns out to be really appreciative of every person who turns out. I suppose it just helps to have what they're going through be acknowledged, and every person who takes the time to come to the funeral does that, regardless of whether they come up with anything enlightening to say.
 
I went to a funeral today for a man that was 33 and had a heart attack. Left behind 3 children and a wife. The son is going to be okay. He was running around the funeral, and visiting the other kids there and he said that his daddy is in heaven. Still, its going to suck growing up without his dad.
I am sad today.
I feel like I should just make a bulletin board in my office of funeral programs.
Life and death
eh?
Sorry Curiuos if this was a bad place to post,
just wanted to share it but not make a new thread.

People are too fucking young to die. I try to make something positive all the time and then sometimes I'm just sad.
Y'know
XOXOXO
 
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