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My Advice: never get married.
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Consumer
Elder Statesman
The reasons for the separation were complex, as there was (and is) a lot of "good" between us. Opening the marriage was only one element. The problem, this time around, is instead of her usual "Meet and Beat" type of encounter, she fell in love with someone else. This, along with a lot of other triggers and an early mid-life crisis, changed her in several, essential ways.
I could have handled an open marriage, but I couldn't handle being second place in her affections. She felt similarly. In addition, and here's the D/s element, I can't "switch". Not to others, and certainly not to someone who used to wear my collar. When she decided that part of her evolving identity was as a Domme, that was a role she would have to fulfill with someone else. When she did, she fell in love. (sigh)
So that, among many other reasons is why the open marriage idea did not give either of us what we really wanted. Sex is one thing, love is quite another.
-SB
Marquis De Sade
I came for the spankings
The moment you cease being a dominant male and become "domesticated" (being sports with an "open marriage" is not a good sign), expect yourself to be punked by your wife, especially if she is not socially conservative in the sense of being keen on preserving a solid familial institution, et cetera.
In a way, you should manage a family like you manage business. Too much laissez-faire, laissez-passer will ruin the institution.
In a way, you should manage a family like you manage business. Too much laissez-faire, laissez-passer will ruin the institution.
Marquis De Sade
I came for the spankings
The plot thickens.
Assuming that you're Sadistic Bastard, the content of this thread makes sense even more, given how overtly you used to write about how much of a successful polyamorous couple you were, and how "understanding" your partner was in that regard. Such a relationship ending in shambles is not uncommon, as there is a thin line between open-mindedness and sheer gullibility that is oftenly crossed in this type of social interactions.
tiff_7_17
Skin is my daddy
Hmm...did it ever occur to you that what you are spouting is opinion, and not facts? You are trying to sound like you're an expert here when what you are actually doing is sounding ignorant. Relationships aren't always black and white. It's bound by the criteria set forth between the parties that are in it. As long as there is communication, honesty, and fairness...a relationship between two people can thrive under all sorts of interesting conditions.
The plot thickens.
Assuming that you're Sadistic Bastard, the content of this thread makes sense even more, given how overtly you used to write about how much of a successful polyamorous couple you were, and how "understanding" your partner was in that regard. Such a relationship ending in shambles is not uncommon, as there is a thin line between open-mindedness and sheer gullibility that is oftenly crossed in this type of social interactions.
That's funny, last time I checked these supposedly 'superior' standard-fare man/woman relationships failed ALL THE TIME. Not that you've probably had a lot of experience with either, but it is possible to distinguish between love and sex. Many people can also therefore separate love and sex. How is that such a difficult concept to understand? I am not saying it is a choice for everyone, but that doesn't mean that it isn't possible or workable. People go around and have sex without love all of the time. There are people in love that don't have sex for some reason or another. Just because people pursue relationships that aren't status-quo doesn't mean that they are doomed to fail just because of their unconventional nature. What an ignorant statement to make. From anybody reading what consumer said, it became pretty apparent that their wants and needs from the relationship changed over time. That could happen to any man and woman in a monogamous relationship just as easily.
I've seen many successful polyamorous relationships...and in some cases, there was so much more honesty and communication and discussion of boundaries...I would venture a guess to say that some of them had some of the healthiest relationships that i've ever witnessed.
