Lok, even though Jack snapped and then snapped at you, he is right. You need to stop blaming your problems on your mother's inability to let you go. She is not holding you, you are allowing her to guilt you into the status quo. What are you going to do when you are all alone? Who will you blame then? Her? Wrong. You blame yourself. You make these decisions and it was a convenient story for yourself to blame your mother who has empty nest syndrome.
We've all seen movies about this sort of relationship. It always ends badly. Get a job, no matter if it is parttime or an hour and a half drive away. You'll feel better about yourself, you might even grow a pair.
While I can sympathize for your situation, I still would find it intolerable to give someone the power over me to make my decision about the most important thing in my life: ME and how I will face the world. It's a little easier to find a job, if you already have a job. Get your foot in the door somewhere, anywhere, and go from there.
You cannot change another person. You cannot change your mother's narrow life view, I cannot give you the gumption to go forward with your life, only you can do it. You have to want it more than you want to remain in the deleterious situation you find yourself in.
Like Jack, I cannot give you the courage to break free. I can only encourage you to do something about your life and get out of this one way ride to depression.
P.S. The above was said without malice towards you, but with your best interests at heart.
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