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I feel kinda bad about somethin'

Her: "I don't want you - let's just be friends"

BDM: "Ok! Sure!"

Years later it worked out and you feel sorry for everyone else. Wheee!! Your a real icon of empathy bro.
 
I'm not trying to be a dick BDM, it's just that were competing for use of our own personal experience as justification for having a better take on Henoch’s problem and this is worthless for all involved.

In my case, my sister and her "Friend" closely resemble Henoch and his straight girl and I was relaying how the experience played itself out over the course of years. I didn’t assign blame to anyone involved you might note.

In your experience, a straight man was left hanging after proclaiming his affections for a straight woman. Add to this that you seem to be defending your example. The only thing I have in my example to defend is my sister whom I love - while in your case you have a huge amount of accrued pride for having endured unrequited love for years in college and come out “stableâ€. That you hung out with her more than your girlfriend “at the time†does not seem to support a “healthy self image†argument in any way. I doubt your girlfriend at the time felt that it was a sign of how “together†you had your shit that you were spending more time with a girl who flatly turned you down than one who openly wanted to be your girlfriend.


Lastly:
If a woman can't "just" be friends with a man she is attracted to, that's her issue not his.

It seems to me that the original quandary Henoch was in, was what to do with her now not “who do I blameâ€. If we're so friggen quick blame her, WTF do we want her constant friendship for again?

Man I don’t mean to be a dick, and you seem like a pretty good guy but you’ve been a real dickhead to me since the virtual instant you figured out I was roughly three years older than you. I didn’t come to this site to dethrone you old timer. You can keep the title. I’m just wasting my day same as everyone else. Henoch seemed sincere and that’s where I came in.
 
I had no idea you were older than me. I assumed there were lots of people here older than me. Henoch, MM, jack, Darthsikle, etc.

How have I been a dick to you?
 
Big Dick McGee said:
I had no idea you were older than me. I assumed there were lots of people here older than me. Henoch, MM, jack, Darthsikle, etc.

How have I been a dick to you?

First, there was the time I asked if I could have a hit of that nearly spent pipe and you said no.

Second there was the time I asked if I could fuck with the FM presets on your car radio - again NO.

You haven't been a dick exactly but if i had to put my finger on it (which I hate to do because it will smell like it all afternoon) I'd say you resent that I'm at times intelligent without being banal - funny without being personal. I'm the new kid. Everybody fucking HATES the new kid. It could be nothing more than new kid perception however.
 
Henoch, you could pull a "Chasing Amy" on her...

...consider this... If you're so fond to be around her and you stare at her cleavage in a sexual way and you get a little half-stiffy holding her close... who says you aren't still gay but happen to love this woman?

People fall in love with people - Gay folk have busted out of what society considers "normal" behavior because they've grown attracted to people that happen to be their own sex. Take that one step further and be attracted to her simply because you are - don't think of it in terms of straight or gay. Do you love this woman? Could you fall in love with her? If you answer yes to those questions, who the fuck cares what gender she is?
 
Always hate the new kid? When I was in school, it was like a contest to see who could be first to date the new girl.

But you're right as far as guys go.
 
You have to understand Henoch that the more you drag this on, the more her hopes might start to be elevated. Just remind her, subtly, time and again, that you are gay and that you do not have any form of sexual feelings for her, and that the only 'feelings' you have is that of deep friendship and you'd like to stay that way.

:)
 
Henoch said:
She could be a good candidate for the Henoch child imo. She says she wants a baby. I dunno, women are so confusing, even to us gay guys.

*sigh* This day really can't get any worse. Now I'm no longer going to be Henoch's Baby Mama. Life gets less and less worth living every day.
 
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