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I would like a family that doesnt die

Well this is terribly sad, it put my home buying woes into perspective.

Speaking as someone that has lost more family members than I care to count the most immediate being my dad's older brother, go see your brother. His family needs you almost as much as you need to see him. I remember being downright distraught and overwhelmed until I laid in my uncle's hospital bed with him and said good-bye, it helped me so much and then I could be strong for my dad.

Good luck to you and your family, you're in my prayers.
 
whisky, so sorry to hear about your brother. i have a similar experience to BDM, where i kept putting off and putting off my visit to my gran before she passed. i never went, never saw her, instantly regretted it when I heard she was gone.

it's a big switch that gets flipped when it actually happens. i wasn't too interested in boarding a plane and losing work hours and spending money on a hotel before she died, but afterwards all of that inconvenience seemed like nothing.

truly sorry, buddy.
 
whisky, so sorry to hear about your brother. i have a similar experience to BDM, where i kept putting off and putting off my visit to my gran before she passed. i never went, never saw her, instantly regretted it when I heard she was gone.

it's a big switch that gets flipped when it actually happens. i wasn't too interested in boarding a plane and losing work hours and spending money on a hotel before she died, but afterwards all of that inconvenience seemed like nothing.

truly sorry, buddy.
 
Thanks everyone.

I thought I had this under control, then yesterday I watched the futurama episode "the luck of the fryish" and I sobbed uncontrollably over the thought of standing over my brothers grave.
 
whisky said:
Thanks everyone.

I thought I had this under control, then yesterday I watched the futurama episode "the luck of the fryish" and I sobbed uncontrollably over the thought of standing over my brothers grave.
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Very understandable! I'm sorry you are having to go through this! This is 100% normal. Do you know about the grieving process and the stages of it?
 
I've lost my dad, my grandparents, three uncles, four aunties, and quite a few cousins, so yeah, I have a passing familiarity with it.

Sorry if that came off sounding a bit harsh and sarcastic, my posts have a habit of doing that
 
And here we are, slightly less than a month from knowing he would die, to the day itself.

At least from what I hear his last hour was peaceful.
 
I'm really sorry man. My condolences go out to you and your family. Did you get to see him? I really feel bad. Try not to suppress any emotions you feel. It is healthy to express any and all emotions you may feel. Check out this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kübler-Ross_model this has the stages of grief. You may not go through all of them nor will you probably experience them in that order. They can come in any order and last for different lengths of time. I hope this helps!! If you have any questions for me, feel free to ask!
 
I'm sorry, Rich. I know the feeling -- I'm not an only child, but I've lost an older brother, as well as both parents, all grandparents, and all but 2 uncles and 2 aunts.

Take heart in the family you've created, and your extended family/friends.
 
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