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What you've described is, in a word, sad. I am thankful more and more each day for the person I've found and share intimacy with.
 
I've always said if a person tells you about a fault you have you can safely ignore it, if two people say the same thing hou can still disregard, but if a hundred people tell you the same thing is wrong with you you might want to give it some thought.
That's how I found out I was an arrogant, condescending prick. Now I put it on my business cards...
 
Seph said:
did you ever think that their transformation might be to do with you?
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Oh, I believe it is entirely. As I wrote, I seem to attract those kinds of men. There is something about me that not only do I attract them, I fall for them most of the time. I have given it a lot of thought and contribute this phenomenon to a multitude of factors. First, and foremost, I've always been attracted to the bad boys, the more complicated individuals. They can only keep up the good guy act for so long and it doesn't take much for them to shed their facade. Second, they figure out if they want to eat, they'd better fix that sandwich themselves. Third, I don't have any need whatsoever for another boss.
 
Talk about acknowledging a problem without accepting personal responsibility. You keep getting in shitty relationships with assholes who demand you serve them and your only failing is that you lile shitty guys? Really? And it's only them who can't hide their selfish lazy nature for long, but you're the one who won't make a fucking sandwich?

Oy. Seems to me the average adult must prepare around 700 lunches and dinners a year give or take. If I'm making those meals anyway, and I know somebody else needs to eat, what harm is there in throwing an extra plate down? That's not being bossed that's basic courtesy. Especially since there are a bunch of older generation guys without the first clue how to navigate a kitchen.

If that guy is smart he'll git while the gitting is good. You're no daisy.
 
I really enjoy doing things for my wife. The problem is she's always getting in my way trying to do things for me. What a pain in the ass she turned out to be.
 
Donovan said:
Talk about acknowledging a problem without accepting personal responsibility. You keep getting in shitty relationships with assholes who demand you serve them and your only failing is that you lile shitty guys? Really? And it's only them who can't hide their selfish lazy nature for long, but you're the one who won't make a fucking sandwich?

Oy. Seems to me the average adult must prepare around 700 lunches and dinners a year give or take. If I'm making those meals anyway, and I know somebody else needs to eat, what harm is there in throwing an extra plate down? That's not being bossed that's basic courtesy. Especially since there are a bunch of older generation guys without the first clue how to navigate a kitchen.

If that guy is smart he'll git while the gitting is good. You're no daisy.
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I'd make you a sandwich. Would you eat it?

All of it?
 
'Gear said:
I really enjoy doing things for my wife. The problem is she's always getting in my way trying to do things for me. What a pain in the ass she turned out to be.
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That is nice that you do things for her and that you enjoy it. Good for you!
 
Donovan said:
What's Spanish for "Run for your life"? Vamanos muchacho?
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Have you bought a new shirt anytime during the last 10 years? I don't mean a used one from the thrift store or ones your family members gave you for Christmas and birthdays.
 
eloisel said:
Not necessarily. If he is in the same place in his life that I am in mine, we'll be fine.
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That's true, in a way. Neon's comment regarding just enjoying it while you can just didn't sit right with me, though - it's as if you're* giving up before even getting out of the gate. You* can't just sit back and let something take it's course, and then become upset when it doesn't work out. That would be like sitting in a ship across from someone and staring at them the whole time versus working together to steer, work the sails and the rudder. Understanding each others strengths without ego, pointing out each others weaknesses without malice, laughing at each others mistakes without emotional harm. In a way, you limit the person you're with as they are no longer a single entity free to do what they please, in another you are stronger together, some would say complete. A relationship may be organic enjoyed for as long as it can be, but a garden left untended gets choked by weeds.






*generalized 'you,' not intended toward specific person
 
kaonashi.shinu said:
That's true, in a way. Neon's comment regarding just enjoying it while you can just didn't sit right with me, though - it's as if you're* giving up before even getting out of the gate. You* can't just sit back and let something take it's course, and then become upset when it doesn't work out. That would be like sitting in a ship across from someone and staring at them the whole time versus working together to steer, work the sails and the rudder. Understanding each others strengths without ego, pointing out each others weaknesses without malice, laughing at each others mistakes without emotional harm. In a way, you limit the person you're with as they are no longer a single entity free to do what they please, in another you are stronger together, some would say complete. A relationship may be organic enjoyed for as long as it can be, but a garden left untended gets choked by weeds.






*generalized 'you,' not intended toward specific person
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But, sometimes weeds, open up new possibilities. Just because they are weeds, doesn't mean they have no beauty.
 
So what you're saying is fuck the beautiful garden I've got already, let's go frolic in the thistles, poison ivy and chokeweed because it's a new possibility? Never mind the rashes, scratches and general inconvenience - who needs the paths, seats, and shade that currently exists? I don't disagree that some weeds are not 'pretty' in their own right, but that was not the purpose of my metaphor.

If you have a beautiful rose garden, you must tend it. If you're not willing to do the work, find a new garden, or stop gardening altogether.
 
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