While spending time with family this week, I realized that I have a relative who will answer with questions. It isn't really questions to gain more clarification-its questions that sound like they are trying to guied you to what I should want.
Me : Do you have a hairdryer I can use?
Normal answer: Yes, I have 2, one is blah blah blah and the other is blah blah blah, which would you like?
Or
NP: No.
Her: Do you want a towel?
Me: No, I have a towel and I would like a hair dryer to dry my hair but I forgot to bring one Do you have one?
Her: Do you want to let it air dry instead? Or you could use a towel.
Me: Yes I could do those things, I was just wondering if you have a hair dryer I can use.
In response to that last statement-sometimes there is silence and no response.
And then after a while,
Her: Well I have one that you could use, but you could air dry it or use a towel also.
So either at this point I give up or I begin asking questions myself because she won't go get the fucking dryer for my hair.
Me: Do you have a problem with me using the hair dryer?
Or I might ask
Me: Is the hair dryer broken or something?
And then at this point-without answering any of my questions she will just respond with
Her: Its on the shelf in the storage closet, blah blah blah-and something something difficult to get to-and something something "I don't want to move something something"
Me: Well can I move it?
Her: Silence
And then 10 minutes pass and I still have wet hair and I make a comment about getting the hair dryer and she responds with, "Oh did you still need the hair dryer? I thought you were going to air dry it"
This is not an actual conversation by the way. BUT IT IS VERY SIMILAR TO ONES I"ve HAD WITH THIS FAMILY MEMBER!