This is a standard answer. I'd agree, for the most part that women need to think about what they are doing and saying. We're ALL ultimately responsible for our actions. It's simple cause and effect in the end. It's stupid for a woman to cause a violent response from a man because she thinks she is safe in the "Men don't hit women" thing.
However I once had an interesting thing happen, and it made me think about this in a new way. My sister had returned home to live with mom [with her 3 kids -- don't ask]. Her husband was and is an irresponsible man who loved to create drama. No wife of his was going to take his children away from him, except he was doing cocaine and putting his children and wife in jeopardy.. You know the type.
Anyway he arrived at the front door demanding to be let in. I happened to be there. My sister went outside to talk to him and one thing led to another and he hit her. I saw it. She ran inside, I was closing the door and he put his foot in the door to keep me from doing it.
He told me to let him in. I said no. I told him that I would call the police if he entered the house. He began to call me names, threaten me etc. We were eyeball to eyeball *literally*.
I told him that he was yelling at the wrong sister. I wasn't in love with him and wouldn't feel one bit of guilt at putting his ass in jail. My sister might think twice about reporting him for hitting her, but that was her emotional hang up--not mine.
He began yelling and screaming at me to the point where I began to get angry too. And I reached the point where I began to yell back.. He reached a point where he said..
"If you were a man, I'd hit you."
I replied:
"If I were a man you wouldn't be talking to me the way you are. You'd know you were asking to have your ass kicked."
I stopped almost instantly because I realized it was true.
Men, you also have a responsibility in how the war between the sexes can escalate. You talk to women [sometimes] in ways that you'd never talk to another man. Why? Because you can. There is very little we can do to make you stop and so some men cross the line.
The whole incident ended when I told him to tread very carefully. That I would take the hit to stop him from entering just to put his ass in jail. We stared at each other for a long pregnant pause, and he backed down and sat in his car for about an hour--then left. But he did not enter my mother's home.
I've never forgotten that incident. Women can talk and talk and carry on because we feel safe behind the societal code of "never hit a woman", but Gentlemen you say things to women, if said to a man, would get you killed.
Think about it!
[yeah yeah, a long post in essentially a trolling thread, but there were a few good responses in this thread despite the Thug-like trolling]
