donovan:
I think that El is harmless in the way a Venus flytrap is harmless, and I'm not at all convinced the tendencies toward passive aggressive response are an act. However, for every annoying or tiresome trait I find in her (or anyone else for that matter) I am fairly certain I have at least three equally annoying habits. I have come to realize, grudgingly and with rancor, that my unsolicited observations on the faults of others isn't well-received by those individuals, especially while my own shortcomings are left to grow unchecked.
So in the interest of regaining my own equilibrium I am straining mightily to resist correcting others until my own needs are sorted out.
Could take a very long time.